Happy Birthday Jennifer Lawrence, and thanks for being a role model

You go girl

You go girl

I don’t like to glorify celebrities as role models for young girls. Little girls are encouraged to look up to pop stars and actresses who are famous for their looks, instead of scientists, authors or other professionals who use their minds to make a difference. However, the fact reminds that a lot of emphasis is put on how women look, so little girls do need positive role models when it comes to appearance, and Jennifer Lawrence definitely fits the bill.

If I had to describe Lawrence in one word it would be awesome. She portrays badass characters like Katniss Everdeen from The Hunger Games and Elissa from House at the End of the Street. She is incredibly fit, but unlike many Hollywood celebrities she isn’t sickly thin or in the business of starving herself. She’s said in interviews that when she gets in shape for a part she aims for looking healthy and strong, not stick thin, which is a wonderful example to be setting for the young girls who will be hanging on her every word.

Lawrence acknowledges that by Hollywood standards she is overweight (which is ridiculous in its own right) but you know what? She doesn’t give a shit.

There should be more actresses like Jennifer Lawrence, both in the talent department, and in the way she handles her responsibility to her viewers and her own body.

 

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It rocks to date a feminist woman

Happy couples prove feminism can make a relationship better.

“Oh Sarah, the way you respect me enough not to question my masculinity when I display behavioral differences from a chimpanzee is so sexy. Swoon.”

Recently we explored the merits of feminist men, so I thought it only appropriate that I write a sister post about feminist ladies.

A few unfortunate horror stories about “feminazies” seem to have scared a lot of  men away from dating any women who identifies as a feminist. This really is a shame, not only because most of what circulates is pure poppycock spread by those desperately clinging to the last breath of patriarchy, but also because it could be scaring men away from some pretty kickass partners. So to combat some of those icky rumors floating around, let’s look at three reasons why feminists make awesome girlfriends/wives.

Feminists don’t have unhealthy expectations of masculinity. Gentlemen, unless you’re content to express the emotional range of a cucumber, you want to be with a feminist woman. As I’m sure you noticed growing up, sexism goes both ways, and men are under a lot of pressure to fit a very narrow definition of masculinity. By traditional standards, a “manly man” is not unlike a chimpanzee: he is aggressive, brutish, engages in only physical past times and solves all of his problems through violence.  Intellectual or artistic interests are completely out of the question, and eating something so dainty as a salad might as well be the eighth deadly sin if you’re a man– no, I’m serious. A very reliable source has informed me that men folk are ridiculed for eating salads. But luckily for you gentlemen, feminists don’t embrace sexism, no matter what gender it happens to be targeting. Besides, a woman who doesn’t want to be forced into certain roles because of her sex isn’t about to tell a man that he has to act like a caveman just because he has a penis. No, she’s more likely to let you be yourself, whether your favorite sport is football or chess… and she’s not going to call your sexuality or masculinity into question because you like to read. So if you aspire to emulate a chimp, by all means find yourself a nice sexist woman and enjoy your life a poo flinging. But otherwise, you might want to stick with feminists.

Feminists have a life outside of you. Be honest fellas. Unless you have some serious mommy issues, you really don’t want your partner’s life to revolve around you. You have your own hobbies and interests, and if you want to have the time to both maintain a relationship and those interests, you better find a girl who has her own stuff going on too. The problem is, a lot of non-feminist ladies feel the obligation to drop everything when they get a guy so they can wait on him hand and foot. Some might call that being an attentive and submissive girlfriend/wife, but I call that being a mother. No one wants to crawl into bed with mommy… well, at least I hope not. Feminists are more likely to have serious careers, as well as the social circles that accompany those careers. Do you know what that means, boys? It means she’s not going to be texting you when you’re out with the guys because she’s bored. Not having the pressure to spend every minute of the day together will make the time you do spend together that much more special.

Feminists are partners, not dependents. The number one thing I’ve never understood about “traditional” relationship roles is why they’re upheld when they seem to benefit no one. The woman is a victim because she’s treated like a child, but the man is a victim too because he has to be a parent…to his adult lover. That’s not only creepy, but incredibly inconvenient. Wouldn’t you want a partner who has an opinion and helps make decisions? Even being challenged occasionally– or all the time, as may be the case in some relationships (coughmine)– would be better than being with someone who just blindly follows your lead. A feminist is the ideal partner because she’ll fulfill her natural role as your equal partner, which will not only make your relationship healthier and more interesting, but it will make your lives more successful. Two brains working on an issue are better than one.

Regardless of gender, everyone wants to be the freedom to be themselves, and not be forced what others think they should be based off what parts they have downstairs. A problem that we as a society are becoming more and more are of is that men are under as much pressure as women are to conform to suffocating gender norms…and that’s why feminism exists. To remind people that they don’t have to be defined by their genitalia. Feminist women don’t expect men to act like brutish lower primates (indeed, many might actually be quite put off by that behavior), they don’t have the need to be clingy because they have full lives outside their partner, and they are truly a partner and a team mate, not someone you have to take care of and give direction. And that’s why it rocks to date a feminist.

There’s nothing sexier than a feminist man

Feminists come in all shapes, sizes and genders

Alright ladies, for a minute let’s not pretend that we don’t think about guys just as much as they think about us– yes, we even leer a little bit, don’t we? It’s not like we can help it! I mean, what’s sexier than a tall, dark haired stud with a HUGE… personality? Well, there is one thing… imagine that same guy, only now he sees you as an equal human being instead of a fully automated sex toy that also makes sandwiches and scrubs toilets. Woo boy, is it hot in here?

Seriously though, feminists seem like pretty obvious boyfriend/husband material– to me, anyway. But maybe you’re not sold! If that’s the case, then allow me this chance to try to influence your taste in fellows.

Why date a feminist?

Because unless you’re a masochist, you don’t want to be treated like dirt. I understand that sexuality is a moving target and that some people get their rocks off by getting treated like a dog– collar and leash included. But I like to operate on the happy assumption that those folks are the minority. For the rest of us, the only way to achieve fulfilling, healthy relationships is to find a partner who respects us… and if a man doesn’t see or treat you as his absolute equal, then there’s no way he respects you, and that’s the truth of it, no matter what crap he tries to feed you about chivalry and courtship. What does this have to do with feminist fellas? Simple. Regardless of the negative propaganda that tends to circulate, a feminist is just someone who believes that the two sexes are equal. If you want a man who believes in sexual equality, then you want a feminist; it’s really that simple.

Because confidence is sexy, and sexist men are not confident.Think of that chunky bully that lives on every elementary school playground. You know the one; he shoves you down on the pavement to prove how “tough” he is, calls the other boys “sissies” and basically makes your life a living hell, while at the same time making a gigantic ass out of himself. You hate him with a passion because he’s such a jerk, until you realize that he only acts the way he does because he’s insecure and awkward, and then all you can feel when you look at him is pity. That kid grows up to be the inappropriately termed “alpha males” of society; the ones that need to prove their masculinity by berating other men and treating the “little women” like inferiors. Ladies, I have news for you; when a man talks down to you, treats you like a child or expects you to submit to him, that’s not a sign of dominance. That’s a sign that he’s incredibly insecure and needs to make you feel like less so he can feel adequate. So underneath that macho exterior, he’s still that chunky little boy on the playground who shoves you in the mud and steals your Pokemon cards because he’s diffident about his social skills– and that is so not sexy.

Because you need someone who you can take out in public. Times are changing, and thank God for that! Because the general public is becoming more educating and has realized that women aren’t some sort of lower beast, sexist behavior is becoming a fairly obvious sign of ignorance and stupidity. You wouldn’t want to go out to a nice restaurant with your loud, obnoxious racist uncle, would you? Of course not, because racism shows a severe lack of intelligence, and being seen with someone like that is embarrassing. Well, the same applies to sexism, so why on earth would you date or marry someone who was going to humiliate you every time you go out into public?

Most importantly, because you deserve to be happy. The only reason to be  in a relationship or marriage is because that person makes you happy. If you can honestly say that you are made happiest by someone who doesn’t respect you or treat you like an equal, then by all means, I wish you a world of happiness with the “alpha male” of your choosing… but if you can’t, then you really ought to consider a man of the feminist variety.

Like women, men vary in appearance and, while everyone has their own physical tastes, it’s not really what’s on the outside that counts in the end. When it comes to personality traits, again tastes may vary, but I think that most of us can agree that there are a few universally sexy characteristics. Is an educated, confident male who is comfortable with his own masculinity your cup of tea? If so, then you have to concede… feminists are sexy.